不一样的生活

在这里，过着很不一样的生活，孩子们最开心不过了。
孩子们开心，我们也就开心。

美丽的学校

孩子很喜欢他们的学校，我也很喜欢， 哈哈！

我回来啦 ！

整三年没‘来’我的blog了。
这三年里有个很大的转变，
对我们一家人的大转变，
真的发梦也没想到的事竟然发生了。。。移民。

佛心慧语 [自觉篇]

1. 一个人, 不能瞭解生命, 生命对他来说是一种惩罚.
2. 改变别人, 不如先改变自己.
3. 拥有财富的人, 不如拥有智慧的人.
4. 常常原谅自己的人, 往往得不到上苍的原谅.
5. 常常责备自己的人, 往往能得到他人的谅解.
6. 人很奇怪, 不瞭解自己, 却又每天想去干涉别人, 弄得痛苦不堪.
7. 人之所以痛苦, 在於追求错误的东西.
8. 有人的地方, 就会有是非, 把它看作很正常, 你就不会难过, 因为是 ----人嘛!
9. 犯错是平凡的, 原谅才能超凡.
10. 任凭你有多大的快乐, 无常总是来到.
11. 制心一处, 无事不办.
12. 伤人之语, 如水覆地, 难以挽回.
13. 大家都知道, 生气是一种无知, 又无济於事, 可是又奈何不了它. 正因为少[悟], 放不下得失之故.
14. 金钱化妆你的外表, 佛法启悟你的内在.
15. 五官刺激, 不是真正的享受, [内在安详], 才是下手之处.
16. 自尊太强, 优越感太重的人, 将不堪一击, 少许逆境, 足以使他彻夜难眠.
17. 妒嫉别人, 仇视异己, 久等於把生命交给别人.
18. 诽谤他人就像含血喷人, 先污染了自己的嘴巴.
19. 轻信道德涂说, 就像一只傻狗, 别人随便扔了一块石头就急忙跑去捡.
20. 不能把握现在, 就无法获得永恒.
21. 人心不好, 环保, 治安, 自然不好.
22. 遇到苦难是不害怕, 心中无事, 是名真修.
23. 时间总会过去的.
24. 算命不如认命.
25. 恨别人, 痛苦的却是自己.
26. 律己要严, 待人要宽.

7.少點煩惱，多點包容

1.如何平息心中的怒火

KITARO - Matsuri

超級星光大道 20110130 李佳薇 - 回家

私家廚房: 木瓜雪耳糖水

安息吧

您安息吧.快点解脱对您来说是好的,

不用那么痛苦,看到您这样我很心痛和心酸.安息吧! 尔弥陀佛.

开心的是您临走前我们买了您想吃的糯米鸡给您吃, 还看到您笑.

遗憾的是我没有一张可以留念您的照片. 也从来没和您合照过.

女儿也上学了

很快一年又过完了,
女佣不回来了,
孩子得安排放在幼儿园的日间护理.

开学快一个月了,
女儿看来还不能习惯这样的安排,
她时常哭闹, 在学校哭整天,
有时她还不肯吃喝.
很心痛她, 她还小才那三岁不到.

儿子就还好,
他已是第二年踏入幼儿园了.

希望女儿很快适应这样的安排.

可以顶多久?

新的一年来了, 新的挑战也来了.
接近两个星期了, 觉得很紧张,
生活变得紧张了,很累, 很大压力.

可以顶多久呢? 不知道可以耐多久.
天知道.

cameron highlands trip @ 18/12/2010

开心全家福

有型吧? 带着墨镜的爸爸和子女

一样的pose

新的一年, 新的开始

2011了,日子过得真快,
又一年了,岁月不留人.

希望大家开开心心,身体健康.
我要开心过每一年 !!! 一定要!!!

讨厌的心情

很久没下写我的心情了,
最近都很忙, 学校开学了, 更加的忙.
有点透不过气的感觉.

1%的转念换来100%的快乐.
我能做到吗? 有深度.

走投无路？

真的要把屋子卖掉？？
真的走投无路？
很不舍得这间屋子啊。
真的要走到这一步吗？

我可不是欠大耳窿钱，别误会哦。

儿子的生日

今天是儿子的生日,
买了蛋糕为他庆祝,
在庆祝之前给父母训话,
他很不开心, 还哭呢!
大家唱生日歌时,
他一点反应都没有,
一面不开心的样子,
但很快他就没事了.
今年的生日不知道给他留了个怎样的回忆呢?

The Importance of Routine for Children

A true understatement of parenting is saying there is an importance of a children's routine. Routine establishes so many aspects of healthy living, good habits and good behavior that even the slightest structure is necessary in day-to-day life.

Really, kids need and even desire routine – even if they don’t know it – and there are plenty of ways to get them going by building a schedule that works for the whole family.
There are many positive side effects for establishing strong routines for kids.
Kids don’t have a lot of control in their lives and it can give them a sense of organization, stability and comfort. That, in turn, should help develop better behavior and some sense of personal control – always a challenge, especially with young kids.
Doing things like bathing and brushing teeth as part of morning or nighttime routines can help establish good personal hygiene and health habits. Having built in chore time somewhere in the week or day, having them help pick up at the end of dinner or tidy up the house at the end of a day of playing establishes responsibility and work ethic.

The list can go on regarding how one aspect of routine can affect another and lead to more positives.
Morning Getting up and going can be hard whether young or old, kid or parent, in school or not. Maybe morning is harder on the stay-at-home dad than child or vise versa. No matter how getting started in the morning goes for a family, getting a solid routine established right off the bat means an easier flow to the day.
Sticking to a similar wake-up call could mean all the difference between having a good day and having a bad one. Think about it, even if it’s obvious, if the kids are used to waking up at 7:30 and for some reason rise an hour earlier or later you now need to figure out how to add an hour to the day or squeeze in a day’s worth of routine in 60 less minutes. The tone of the day can be messed up.
The implications are worse if the kids are in school or there is something taking place that morning. Having a solid morning ritual will maintain a good stress level for everyone.
So whatever the process is, getting up, getting dressed, hygiene maintenance then off to the breakfast table, there is only one chance to get off to a good start.

Mealtime When it’s time to eat is a perfect time to establish good habits. Eating habits, specifically. Always eat breakfast, and a good one. Lunch and dinner are more of a given, but set times and structure for kids so there are no surprises and length between eating isn’t so great that hunger takes over the family. That can lead to crabbiness or impulse snacking and dinner wrecking.
Set standards for when snacking takes place and what kinds of foods are eaten. Don’t indulge in food whenever a child wants something. The results should equal good eating and eating habits.
Mealtime is also a good time to instill family into the kids. Always try to find time to sit down together, preferably at a table, to talk and eat. Additionally, have kids help get dinner started, set the table and clean up afterward to plant a bit of responsibility.

Sleep Getting kids to sleep, whether it is for a nap or for the night, is one of the greatest challenges for parents. Those kiddos always think they are missing something if they have to shut their eyes, plus there is so much more fun to be had running around rather than lying down.
Obviously, children who aren’t well rested can throw a wrench in any lifestyle. Sticking to a solid sleep schedule may be one of the most important aspects of routine.
Sticking to the same times and the same aspects will make this so ingrained that less fighting and whining will take place and hopefully better sleep will result.
For bedtime, brushing teeth, going to the bathroom, taking a bath, reading a story and finally lights out can be comforting and rewarding for the kids. They know what the next step is and what the expected end result will be. Stray from whatever ritual you use and getting those lights off and eyes closed becomes more of a challenge.

For younger kids needing naps, timing may be everything. Try for a nap too early and they may fight the entire time and never get to sleep. Go too long and they may be over tired, leading to more restlessness. Little things before a nap may help in the same ways as going down for the night – stories, tucking in, changing diapers, etc.

Some flexibility may be OK around sleep times if special activities or events are going on, but a good sleep routine can keep a family sane.

Play One area for stay-at-home dads and their kids that can, and maybe should, be flexible is fun activities. Changing things up can keep life fresh and interesting.
As long as everyone knows there is activity built in to the day, there will be something looked forward to. No matter how the basic daily structure is set up, there always will be
time for activity. A little planning can go a long way, trying last-second ideas to fill the schedule also can lead to stress.

For older kids with sport practices or extra curricular activities there isn’t much of a choice in having the time set aside. And that requires a whole new level of planning to make sure all the needs of the kids and the rest of the family remain being met.

Morning or afternoon, ahead of naps or after meals, there needs to be time for fun. Everyone needs the release, and it could make things feel a little less structured, too.

Kids and Bedtime Routines

Whether you have an infant, toddler, kindergartner, or preteen, a good bedtime routine can be the difference between good sleep habits and a lot of sleepless nights.
There are dozens of parenting sleep books about kids and sleep problems, from Dr. Ferber's "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" book to Elizabeth Pantley's "No-Cry Sleep Solution".
And while any of the books can help you get your baby sleeping better, even though they all use different methods, it is important to notice that most of these parenting experts stress the key of a good bedtime routine for a good night's sleep. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics, in their "Guide to Your Child's Sleep" book state that "it's almost impossible to overstress the importance of a calm, orderly bedtime routine."

Bedtime Routines

A bedtime routine includes all of the things that you do with your baby or older child just before and up to the time that you put him to bed, such as taking a bath, a last diaper change, putting on pajamas, saying prayers, and reading a bedtime story, etc.
The goal of a good bedtime routine is for your child to fall asleep on his own, without being rocked, watching TV, or with you lying down next to him. This way, if he does wake up later, he should be able to comfort himself and fall back asleep without needing any extra help. On the other hand, if he associates falling asleep with being rocked, for example, if he does later wake up in the middle of the night, he likely won't be able to go back to sleep unless you rock him back to sleep.

Bedtime Routines Do's and Don'ts

There is no absolute right way to set up a bedtime routine. Some kids like to hear a bedtime story, others may want to talk about their day, and some may just want to say their prayers and go to sleep. As long as your child falls asleep easily and sleep all night, then your bedtime routine is likely working well.
Other things that you should likely do as part of a good bedtime routine can include that you:

• Start early. It is much easier to begin a good bedtime routine when your baby is young than to try and change poor sleep routines when you have a toddler or preschooler who still isn't sleeping well.
• Make your bedtime routine age-appropriate. Your child's bedtime routine will change over time. For example, while it is expected for a newborn or younger infant to fall asleep nursing or drinking a bottle of formula, you can try and start putting your baby down while he is drowsy but still awake once he is four or five months old.
• Keep your bedtime routine fairly short. A good bedtime routine will probably last about 10 to 15 minutes, or a little longer if you include a bath.
• Use a security object as a part of your bedtime routine. A security object, like a stuffed animal or blanket, can be an important part of a good bedtime routine, especially for toddlers and preschoolers. These types of items usually aren't safe in the crib for younger infants though.
• Be consistent in your bedtime routine. Your bedtime routine may change over time, as your child gets older, but it should be fairly consistent from day to day, starting at the same time and going in the same order. For example, a toddler's bedtime routine might start at 8pm and include a bath, putting on pajamas, reading a few bedtime stories, getting in bed and a final goodnight.
• Offer some choices in your bedtime routine. Your child can't choose when to go to bed, but you can let him have some power in his bedtime routine by letting him have a choice over which pajamas to wear and which books to read, etc.
• Understand that a little crying can be okay. Some kids, no matter what you do, will cry for a few minutes as they settle down for sleep or when they wake up in the middle of the night. This can be okay if they quickly settle down and you are comfortable letting them cry for a few minutes. Keep in mind that there is no real 'cry-it-out' method of getting kids to sleep though. Even the Ferber Method doesn't advocate simply letting kids cry all night.
• Use a nightlight. Few kids like to sleep in the dark, which makes a nightlight useful.
• Include dental hygiene in your bedtime routine. Whether you are cleaning your baby's gums or reminding your older child to brush and floss his teeth, proper dental hygiene is a good habit that you can include in your child's bedtime routine each night.
• Do remind your kids to use the bathroom one last time before going to bed. This is especially important for younger kids who still have issues with bedwetting.

Just like there are a lot of right ways to have a good bedtime routine, there are some wrong ways and things you should avoid.

• Don't drag out your bedtime routine. If you are not careful, your child will drag out your bedtime routine much longer with repeated calls for drinks, snacks, or to use the bathroom. Try to stick to your original bedtime though.
• Avoid stimulating activities just before your bedtime routine. Especially if your child has trouble falling asleep, you should usually stop stimulating activities 30 to 60 minutes before bedtime, such as playing video games, watching TV, or talking on the phone.
• Avoid caffeine before bed. Keep in mind that in addition to soda and tea, caffeine can be a hidden ingredient in other foods, including coffee flavored ice cream and chocolate, etc.
• Avoid poor sleep associations. This includes things like rubbing your child's back until he falls asleep, having music playing or keeping the TV on, since if your child learns to associate falling asleep with something like that, he will need help if he later wakes up. And no, simply keeping the TV or music on all night doesn't work. If your child wakes up, he will still cry out for you and need your help to go back to sleep.
• Don't assume that your child will simply outgrow poor sleep habits. Unfortunately, if nothing is done, many children who have sleep problems as infants and toddlers continue to sleep poorly even once they start school. The sooner you fix your child's poor sleep habits, including starting a good bedtime routine, the better.

A Bedtime Routine That Works - Creating a Routine That Helps Your Child Fall Asleep

Lack of sleep can cause a slew of other problems, including poor behavior, an inability to concentrate, and frequent nighttime waking. In order to make sure that your child is getting adequate sleep on a regular basis, you'll need to keep the bedtime routine fairly consistent.

Here is a list of Dos and Don'ts for establishing a bedtime routine that works:

Do:

1. Spend some time unwinding with a quiet activity 30 minutes before starting the bedtime routine.
2. Be consistent. The routine should be the same night-to-night, so that your child learns to anticipate sleep as part of the routine.
3. Include bathtime in your regular routine, as the soothing warmth will help prepare your child's body for rest.
4. Make reading together part of the bedtime routine.
5. Move your child's bedtime up (to an earlier time) if he or she frequently wakes during the night.
6. Leave the room while your child is still awake.
7. Allow soft music or a nightlight.
8. Remain calm when your child calls for you.
9. Reassure your child that you will come back and check on him or her during the night.
10. Always put your infant on his or her back to sleep.
11. Impose reasonable consequences if your child refuses to go to sleep. For example, a favorite toy might go in "Time Out," or your child might lose TV time for continuing to act out at bedtime.

Don't:

1. Make TV part of the bedtime routine.
2. Offer caffeinated sodas with dinner.
3. Allow frequent interruptions to the bedtime routine.
4. Make lying down together or rocking your child to sleep a regular part of the bedtime routine.
5. Use thick blankets, quilts, stuffed animals, or pillows in your infant's crib.
6. Pick your child up if he or she continues to call for your fights going to sleep. Instead, simply reassure him or her that you're nearby.